Happy Holidays?

Hello everyone and happy Tuesday before Thanksgiving.
I hope you are all well and happy and in the mood to give me some advise. I really need some help.

So here is the issue; yesterday at work I wished one of my clients Happy Holidays as she was leaving my room. When I did she dragged a hand down her face making a “UUUrrrgggg” kind of noise and said “Don’t remind me. I am so far behind.”
And then she left.

Can you believe it? She just threw that grenade and then ran from the room.

What does this mean is there some kind of holiday quota I don’t know about that needs to be met?

Are quotas assigned on a sliding scale or curve, I hope?

Are quotient measured individually or by family groups, ( is that why single people get invited to so many awkward family/ friends mixed events at this time of the year?)

Am I supposed to be keeping records, filling out forms, making quarterly reports?

Is that why people are always saying “for the record?”

Is there a fine or penalty for not hitting your numbers?

Is there a holiday task master I am supposed to be checking in with.

Is that why Santa is always watching?

Finally following my dream

Thank you so much to all of you wonderful people in my life for your good wishes and interest in my ambition to go back to school.

To answer those of you who want to know more; I have decided to follow my passion (with some gentle nudging from Melina) and pursue a Bachelor of Arts Degree with a focus in creative and screen writing.

For too many years I thought of my over active imagination and addiction to the written word as a weakness I had to overcome in order to make it in “The Real World.” I’ve finally figured out that not only is there no shame in doing what makes you happy but also that there is far more integrity in that, than doing a half assed job in something that doesn’t.

I was so excited when I read my acceptance letter; I cried and laughed, danced in circles and thoroughly embarrassed my children.

I am still riding that high, I am however also determined that following my dream does not negatively affect my girls. In that vein a Bachelors Degree from SNHU will cost roughly 25,000 dollars. Anyone who is able to help wither financially or by spreading the word by visiting the link below, I would and do greatly appreciate it.

Blessed be to you all



Morning everyone,

So going down the list of tasks Holly set me the next one that needs a check mark is “figure out who your target audience is and where they hang out online.”
The implied question here being, who did I write this book for?
Well to be honest, first and foremost I wrote this book for myself, because I loved the theme of it, developing the characters was so much fun and I seriously couldn’t wait to write the dramatic conclusion.
Great so all I have to do to figure out who my market is, is figure out who I am.


So who the hell am I?

Do you mean besides being an evasive smart ass with a flair for sarcasm?

Umm Hummmm

I don’t think you have the clearance to be read in on that file.

Cut the crap and answer the question wisenheimer if you ever want to sell a book to someone you’re not related to.

Fine, Jezze calm your nuggets. Ok I am an introvert, a solitary Wiccan, a mom who loves hanging out with her kids, and an ex wife who finally BELEAVES it was not her fault her husband cheated. I am a total sucker for epic stories of self sacrifice where the stakes are no less than saving the world. I love well orchestrated fight scenes and flawed heroes who make the right call despite their shortcomings and I secretly hold out hope that when I am 50 Gandalf will invite me on an adventure.

That is freakishly cheeseball.

I know :(

Ok so the second half of this part of Holly’s assignment was to find out where people like that hang out online. Sooooooo where do you hang out online?


SIGH This is going to be tougher than I thought.

All Hallows Eve

Happiest of Samhain to you all,

I hope you all have been well since the last time I posted, which I know has been a while. Like many of you I am getting ready to celebrate the holiday by dressing up, eating too many sweets and keeping all the lights on. But also I plan on honoring the Wiccan New Year by making a resolution.
The other day I was meeting with my, talented , brilliant and fun marketing and website specialist Holly Ares Snyder, we were talking about plans for prompting The Box this up coming spring as well as the second book in the series to be released the following fall. During the course of this conversation Holly gave me HOMEWORK, among a few other items the topics of which I will cover in other posts she called me out on my lack of content on my blog, especially lately. Although I knew I deserved it I was still shocked and a little bit resentful if am being honest. I mean, you know, didn’t I have enough to do what with working, attending our networking meeting, running children around, cleaning house, doing errands, attending massage therapist continuing education classes and oh yes writing books; didn’t I have enough to do.

Predictably I started to squirm a little, made a few lame excuses and sub textually requested she let me off the hook on that one. Holly however was far to smart and professional to fall anything so amateurish pointing out that regular posts don’t necessarily have to be life altering novellas all the time, they did however need to be consistent and interesting if you want to build an audience.

So to circle back around to the celebration of Samhain. I thought that being the Wiccan New Year, Samhain would be an apropos night to publically declare my intension to DO BETTER; to show my appreciation to all of you for reading my work, to prove to Holly that I respect her opinion by following her advice and to challenge myself to reach my full potential.

Until next time,

Blessed Samhain and Happy New Year.

May 1st

Happy May first everybody, it’s been a chilly spring so far but I am hopeful that that trend is coming to an end, I’m sure you all are as well.

It’s been a crazy busy month here in the Ryan Fedeila household. a couple of birthdays were celebrated, I got through the classes and passed the test for the first half of my orthopedic certification, began classes for the second. I finished two more chapters of book two (just eight more to go) had Easter and saved the life of a snake. Wow that’s a lot, no wonder the house is a bit dusty this morning.

Lets get straight to the meat of today’s post then before May starts filling up. $10.00 will be donated to the yellow stone wolf packs curtsey of my youngest daughter and The Box. The charity for May will be The South Range School of Derry’s PTA. Gratitude to any and all of you who have helped out in past months and for spreading the word for this one.

Also I’ve got a small bonus surprise this month. I’d like to announce that plans to revamp my blog are in the works. With a little help from a friend we plan on making the blog sleeker more user friendly and more appealing in general. As things stand at the moment the new and improved blog should be ready at the end of August and will feature a special limited time treat for visitors.

Wishing you all a warm and mild May.
Until next time,
Blessed be.

April 4th

As I have a tendency to do I wasted a good part of my morning today obsessively rehashing a conversation I had recently with someone who is (in my opinion ) an overbearing twit. We all have a person like this in our lives I think, the pontificating boss or the know it all cousin who act as if because they have said a thing, that makes it so. You know what I am talking about, right?

Anyway, do to whatever neuroses this falls under I always feel compelled after dealing with one of these types to pick the conversation apart, find all the inconsistencies, site all the times in my experience the person has led me astray and of course discover all the clever things I should have said. It’s a counterproductive habit that I know I need to work on, today however I think I may have stumbled on the key to breaking it. As I reenacted the most annoying part of the exchange I heard myself say, “He’s like a broken clock, right twice a day and he thinks that makes him an expert on time.

Aha, it was a light bulb moment for me and suddenly I found myself unattached emotionally to the conversation in question for after all; one does not try to reason with a broken clock or try to make it see why it is wrong, that would be (if you’ll pardon the obvious pun) a waste of time. Nor would it be fair to blame the broken clock every time you were late for an appointment because you took the information it provides at face value, after all the clock did not miss lead you out of any malice or an intention to deceive it is only trying to justify it’s place on your wall.

Until next time
Blessed Be

April 2nd

Hey everyone, as you all know yesterday was Pan Blair’s birthday and in honor of it I asked you all to preform a random act of kindness in her name. I thought it would be nice to share with you all what I did yesterday to honor her birthday. In keeping with Pan’s affinity with the rule of three I decided to preform three random acts of kindness and they were as follows. First I brought my boss his favorite fries for lunch, second I did not get snarky with my mother for posting smushy junk all over my blog when I am trying to maintain a bad ass reputation and last I put an extra stamp on my uncles birthday card so that he can steam it off and use it again. : )

I’d love to here what you all did. If you feel like sharing just click the comment button under this post. Can’t wait to hear from you all.
Until then
Blessed Be